A Month of Gratitude: Life

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Today Southwest Virginia faced yet another gut-wrenching shooting in the deaths of Alison Parker and Adam Ward. My heart completely aches for their families,  friends, and their community.

To be honest, I have purposefully hidden my head in the sand today. I saw something about it briefly on Facebook right after the shooting (before it grabbed headlines) and was grateful to be running errands all day. You see, ever since the VT shooting, any time I hear about another shooting, I stay away from social media and the news. I can’t handle it. I have tried (once, after another shooting happened a couple years after 2007)… but it took me back into such a dark place. So this is how I cope. I say a short prayer for those involved and then stay away. I focus on the positives… the things that I can control. I focus on the life and light around me. It is the only way that I know how to bear with such unspeakable and undeniable tragedy. I’m not pretending it isn’t happening, but it’s the only way that I can honor lives lost.

So if you ask me if I heard about the shooting, please excuse me if I start to get teary eyed and become short with you and want to change the subject. I don’t want to talk about it. I’m not ignoring it happened and ignoring those lives lost, but I am dealing in the way that I can.

I’m not telling you what to do. Each of us handles tragedy in different ways. I would just make one request. Today, honor life. Fill your heart with gratitude that it is beating. I am so blessed that tomorrow I can wake up and get to find something else to be grateful for.

A Month of Gratitude: 21 Months

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Today Audrey and David turned 21 months. 1 year and 9 months. 1 and 3/4 years old. In just 3 months, our toddlers will be 2. Today I am grateful for birthdays and growth and new developments. Today was an average Saturday: Tim got to play with the twins so I could run out and do a couple errands. I got to feed them lunch and put them down for a nap while Tim had to run out. Then, in the afternoon, we went to a local mall.

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Lately, it seems like David has just exploded into about 2 new words a day. He will say something as a way to ask for it. Then, while we are trying to figure out what he is saying, he will then say (and sign) “Please.” Then he will excitedly nod his head yes constantly as if to say “Yes, you got it Mom! Now please get it for me.” I can’t help but laugh every time. Half the time we can’t figure it out, but every day he does this throughout the day.

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Audrey’s vocabulary has gotten better in her own way. She adds new words daily, but she puts them together in complete sentences, like: “Audrey wants the flower cup of water.”

We’ve also made a great improvement in the twins’ toddler moods and transitions. I will save our method for another post, but it’s quite exciting to see a way that actually works.

21 months. So much has happened in those 21 months. I can’t believe how far we have come as parents and how far they have come as now toddlers.

We love you, Audrey and David. Happy birthday!



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A Month of Gratitude: My Husband

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So I know that I haven’t posted some updates from my #monthofgratitude challenge, but they have been ones that I really wanted to keep to myself this past week (and a half). But I have still found the good in each day. That being said, there is something about being accountable and actually posting each and every day. So for the final 1/3 of the month, my goal is to post each day with a new item I’m thankful for.

During this past hiatis, the one thing that has been constant as a source of my gratitude is my husband, Tim. He is my rock and my best friend. He is my sounding board and the one who lets me say whatever I’m thinking without judgement. He watches the kids first thing in the morning and right when he gets home at night so I can have some time to myself and my work. He understands when, as soon as we say goodnight to A and D, I go into my office and start working. He gets it and doesn’t complain.

I could go into a million reasons from our 12 year history as to why I love this man, but let me just say that I am grateful for him and our love and our commitment to our family. I wouldn’t be half the person that I am without him.

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A Month of Gratitude: Teamwork, Family, and Fresh Haircuts

So many things to be thankful for this weekend!

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On Friday, I co-taught an online class with some amazing crossline members of Young Living. Many of them had never taught an online class before, and they rocked it! We were able to launch a new class for our team and these amazing women were able to gain experience and become confident YL educators.

On Saturday, we traveled to our hometown to visit Tim’s cousin, her husband, and her new baby, as they were visiting from New Jersey. It was so fantastic to see them and let Audrey and David meet their new cousin. Audrey kept wanting to hold Baby Liv, and David wanted Baby Liv to hold his trains (um… he must have been in love to want to share his Percy train!).

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Today was haircut day! Tim’s cousin is an amazing hair stylist in NJ, and when she came down here, we had Audrey and David get their first haircuts! It was the best experience. We timed it so that A & D were having lunch, and they were so happy throughout the whole haircut. How often does that happen that we have such a great experience for a first haircut.

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A Month of Gratitude: Naptime and Birthdays

It’s late, but I really want to post things that I’m grateful for today. This will be brief though (you can tell I’m tired because I’m not going to be wordy). Since I didn’t post yesterday, I wanted to post two things I’m grateful for today: naptime and birthdays.

Moms, you know what I’m talking about! We go through weeks or months of struggling with naps. Just when we think we get it figured out, your kids will decide not to nap on a day that you need rest. But when you get a good naptime, it’s sooooo glorious.

And as for birthdays, today is my awesome nephew’s birthday. I can’t believe that he is 8 today and going into 2nd grade. It seems like yesterday that my brother called and woke me up to let me know that I was going to be an aunt. We rushed in to our hometown so that we could hold L for the first time later that day. How lucky that we can celebrate something so wonderful as birthdays.

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A Month of Gratitude: How Do You Do It? Blog

 

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Ever since I was pregnant with my twins, I have been a blogger with How Do You Do It?, a blog for parents of multiples. I can’t even begin to express what this group of women has given to me: a community of support, gifted writers willing to share their lives and experiences, and individual women who have become such dear friends. It even led me to my great friend Angela and now business partner with my Young Living business (Healthier Oil the Thyme). I have depended on these women and their words so much in the last couple of years. Being a mom is hard. Being a new mom is even harder. Being a new mom of multiples is harder still. Yet each and every one has given me the confidence that I needed to become the mom that I am today.

Today has been a bittersweet day. My last post went live for HDYDI, called “Twinfant Tuesday: Gender Differences in Infancy.” After over two years of contributing, I realized that I needed to take something off of my plate. It wasn’t an easy decision, but it was one that I needed to do for me, my family, and my other commitments. I knew that I just couldn’t keep it up and give the type of posts that I wanted to contribute.

So today, in honor of my last post, I wanted to just say two words to my HDYDI mamas: thank you. I love you all so much, those who I have had the pleasure of working with directly, and those who are new to the team. I love you for what you have given our twin community: strength, communication, assurance, support, and motherly love. Thank you for sharing your hearts and children with us, and thank you for what you continue to do for us. And I wanted to especially say some words about Sadia, who has kept HDYDI going. She is our (and my) rock and cheerleader. Sadia, I can’t wait to meet you in person one day and give you and your girls a big, huge hug. Your friendship will mean more to me than you know.

You just don’t know what inner strength is until you meet a Mom of Multiples.

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A Month of Gratitude: When Things Fit Together

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Today was hard to narrow down to one thing. So much happened, yet so little happened as well. We cuddled on the couch and watched morning PBS after Tim went to work. I took the twins to our local gym so that I could have a few minutes by the adult-only pool and they could play with the other kids (they love it there). We had a fun lunch where Audrey and David didn’t want to give up their yogurt bowls because they were trying to get every last little drop of yogurt. They had a really terrific nap and woke up happy (and were ok just hanging out quietly for a little while afterwards). We played downstairs happily, and when they were ready for their snack (pretzel sticks), they shared from the same container. Audrey fed David, and David fed Audrey. They had a terrific dinner of avocado, homemade mac and cheese, and meatloaf. All of the Doyles were members of the Clean Plate Club (which is a feat when two are toddlers). David wanted Audrey’s toy, but instead of throwing a fit, our 1 minute warning worked (I’m sure that will be the subject of another #monthofgratitude post). They had a fun bath and went to bed relatively easily. Tim and I were able to cuddle on the couch without any computers and watch some TV together.

You know how some days things just work? When all of those routines and preparation and giving transition warnings just works? Yeah, today was one of those days. Rarely is a day as smooth as this. I don’t expect to see one like it again for a long time. But today I am reveling in it. I am soaking it in. And I am going to go to bed before midnight.

 

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A Month of Gratitude: Baby/Parent Dates

As a mom of twins, I never was able to go to baby yoga or “playdates” out and about by myself (with them out of the stroller) or baby gymnastics without a second set of hands (thank you Aunt Kat!!!). So Tim and I recently decided that we needed to each take a child and have a Mommy-and-Me or Daddy-and-Me date.

Today was the first day of this. We had errands to run, but we got to do it with just one child. And it was so much fun. Tim went with David to Home Depot (to look at the tractors and get an air filter), Target (to try to find another Percy die-cast train), Toys R Us, and then the grocery store.

I took Audrey to Franklin Goose and Walmart. We all had so much fun! Audy and I held hands, sang to songs we had never heard before as if we knew every word, played with the toys, held every single Sesame Street “friend” in Walmart, and ran up and down the aisles in the cart shouting “wheeeeeeeeee!” This was definitely something we will be repeating.

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A Month of Gratitude: Music

How often do we go through life just trying to make it through one day? How many times do we fail to remember and honor the small things, the things that made that day special, the little moments?

We are all guilty of this. As Audrey and David are now 20 months old, we are starting to think about what changes will be happening in the next 4 months and then when they are 2. Potty training… possibly moving to a big boy/girl bed… maybe even turning the car seat to face forward… walking without a stroller all the time. Can my little babies really be getting so big?

So in an effort to really stop and remember, I will be writing about things that I am grateful for. A month of gratitude. My goal is to write each day, even if it’s just a short little post. Let’s see what this month holds.

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Today I am grateful for music: those who are blessed musicians sharing their music with us, those sweet lullabies (sung by both professionals and Audrey right before she falls asleep), the pitch that David tries to match with the Sesame Street or Thomas songs, classical music which just permeates into your soul… Life is so much more full because of music.

I am writing this because we had the pleasure of having a private family/friends concert with my brother’s favorite band (and who he has been interning with all summer), David Wax Museum. It was a wonderful set, and it was even more special to see Josh and his friend Hannah sing and play along with them, totally where they were meant to be. We then drove home listening to a beautiful new CD of lullabies and classical music, helped with Audrey’s adorable voice trying to match the songs that she had never heard before.

 

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