Say What?

Say What? How to Respond to Rude Questions and Comments -

As a twin mom, I feel like a celebrity when we go out with the babies. People stare. They point. They make comments (some good, some bad, some they think we won’t hear but we are right next to them). They tell their kids to look our way. They also approach us more than if we only had one baby.

Yes. All of those have happened to us.

There was a middle-aged woman at Macy’s that said, “Oh. My. Gawd” in disgust. I gave her a dirty look and then quickly started cooing to my beautiful babies and walked out of there.

There was a 30-something mother in Target that said to her 7-year-old daughter, “Hey, hey, hey, come here! Stop what you are doing and come here! You have to look at this. Those are twins!” Um, as if the daughter doesn’t go to school with 4 sets of them. We aren’t that rare anymore!

Then there was a cashier that said that she was a mom of 18-year-old twins and “Oh my, how small your babies were when they were born. My babies were 8 pounds each, and I carried full term…” and on and on about how wonderful her twins were and how pitiful ours were.

Then there was the sales woman at Athleta that asked us, “Did you do anything special to get them?” Thankfully, her co-workers were horrified that she asked us this, and they lamented this after she turned and walked away (with us standing with our mouths open).

Did we do anything special to get them? 

She was asking if we went through fertility treatments. None of her damn business, really. I don’t mind talking about my reproductive prowess with friends and family, but with a stranger? No thank you!

So it made Tim and I laugh in the car on the way home. What SHOULD we have said to this woman? How should we have responded? Leave your responses in the comments section. I can’t wait to hear what you have to say! They can be humorous, snarky, or kind-hearted.


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  1. Grandma Elly says:

    I would just smile and ask “If I were your daughter, would you want me to share such a personal thing with someone I don’t know?”

  2. Laura Leseberg says:

    “Oh, you know, the usual way.”

  3. Marianne says:

    “Seriously, the store’s customer service protocol features probing, personal questions??? I wonder why other stores haven’t thought of that?”

  4. “Yes, we did IT twice in one day”

  5. You know I don’t have twins, but I actually have no problem being very open about our fertility treatments. I have been able to help more than one mama-hopeful who was super curious and had even been struggling. But that’s just me 🙂

  6. I can’t believe the nerve of some people! I just love your blog, you crack me up! I nominated you for a Sunshine Blogger Award on my blog. Come stop by and visit for more details. 🙂
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  7. I can’t believe the nerve of some people! So rude!
    I just love your blog – you crack me up! I have nominated you for a Sunshine Blogger Award over on my blog. Come and stop by to see more details. 🙂
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  8. I once had someone ask me if I had them vaginally…she later explained that she was a NICU nurse, but still!

    • Oh, just about everyone that I meet asks me that. I have stopped letting THAT bother me, because I get it so often. Plus, I’m a little proud of my 8 minutes apart and vaginal birth!

  9. I really want to mention a particular position and finish with “works every time” and then walk away but I never have the quick wit to respond on the spot

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