*Note: There will be some tasteful “Birds and the Bees” talk on this blog post. If you are not comfortable with this, please do not read further.*
When someone finds out I am pregnant, there are usually lots of congratulations: “Oh, that is wonderful! You are going to love it! You will be such great parents!”
Then they find out that we are going to have twins, and the mood tends to change: “Oh. Get ready to have your hands full!” or “I have a cousin who had twins,” or “Get your rest now,” or “Double trouble.”
When we first found out it was twins, my reaction was very much like those that we face every day. I was horrified. My perfect image of being a mom of my son or daughter and then having another little one a few years down the line… well that was gone. Could I go to the grocery store ever again? Would I need a bigger car? What happens when both of them cry at once? How can I do this?
Then, something happened, and I realized how unbelievably blessed we are to have not just one baby, but two. There is a reason why we were given this gift at this point in our lives, whether we thought we were ready for it or not. So now, my reply to those Debbie Downers is “We are so excited to have twins! We are ready for this adventure.” Once I passively confront the negativity, it helps them change their mood too… usually.
Then the typical 2nd question comes: “Do twins run in your family?”
As I have answered this question about 100 times (and remember, I am just 20 weeks pregnant at this point), I realize that so many people do not understand how twins “happen,” the differences between the different kinds of twins, and how it runs in families. I thought I might take this post to answer some of these questions.
What is an identical twin?
An identical twin is when one egg is released and is fertilized. It separates into two different embryos, but they have originally come from the same egg. That means that they will have the exact same DNA. That also means that they will be boy/boy or girl/girl twins. There cannot be identical boy/girl twins. They will look exactly the same (with minor differences due to “nurture,” but the “nature” is identical).
What is a fraternal twin?
A fraternal twin is when there are two eggs that are released during ovulation. They are both fertilized with two separate sperm. Genetically, these twins are no more similar than any siblings. The only thing more than siblings that fraternal twins share are a birthday and a womb at the same time. Fraternal twins can be a boy/boy, girl/girl, or a boy/girl.
Due to the prevalence of fertility drugs and treatments that stimulate the release of eggs, the number of cases of fraternal twins is on the rise. Naturally, usually only one mature egg is released at ovulation. However, with fertility medicine, it causes more than one egg to be released at ovulation. With IVF (in vitro fertilization), more than one fertilized embryo can be implanted into the woman’s uterus. Although this can and does happen naturally, still, but twins from fertility treatments are usually fraternal.
Do twins run in your family?
Ah, the question that I know is coming upon the mention of twins. The answer that we give to these people is, “Yes. They run on both sides. We always joked about having twins, but we never thought that it would actually happen.”
But here is the real answer. Yes, they are FOUND in our family. My maternal grandfather was a twin (no surprise to any blog readers as I talk about Papa Alan all the time). They are also found on Tim’s maternal side. However, here’s the thing: both of these cases are identical twins. Are you ready for this bombshell? Identical twins don’t “run in the family.” If you think about how identical twins form, it is the separation of an embryo. It is, in essence, a freak of nature. A really scientifically cool freak of nature, but a freak of nature, nonetheless.
Fraternal twins are actually the ones that can “run in the family.” However, we don’t have any fraternal twins in our recent family history. For us, it was just a fluke. But it was one that we are so excited to have!
What about the other kinds of twins I hear about?
In the twin world, it actually does get a bit more complex. There are different kinds of identical and fraternal twins, and their health and development in utero is tied to them. I will do my best to explain the differences here. If you are satisfied with the answers I gave above, please feel free to stop reading this section now.
Monozygotic Twins (MZ)
Also called identical twins. “Mono” = one. “Zygote” = egg. This is the “header” word for many of the following terms.
Identical twins that have the same placenta and are in one sac.
An identical twin with one placenta (chorionic) and two sacs (each embryo has its own amniotic fluid and sac). There are rare cases where fraternal twins have a fused placenta and are Mo/Di twins, but that is very unusual.
Dichorionic-Diamniotic Twins (DiDi)
Two placentas (chorion) and two sacs to house the amniotic fluid. The Doyle Twins are DiDi twins.
These are identical twins where the division of the embryo starts, but it doesn’t finish. Often, conjoined twins will share organs.
So, that is “Twins in a Nutshell.” I hope that it has answered some questions for you. Leave a comment if you have questions or clarifications for me!